Love Dare #7

LOVE DARE#7 as referenced in the Love Dare:

For today’s dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your loved one. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the list and thank your loved one for having this characteristic.

Please note each dare will be extended a week so that you have enough time to do the dares, reflect with God, and fellowship with us. You may do the dares more than once a week if you are in a position to do so; allow God to be your guide. Please feel encouraged to comment as a means for stronger fellowship, but we do no want you feel obligated to do so.
 

 

 

Garrett’s Response to Love Dare #6

This dare was difficult to decipher and unpack. In looking at kids, we fondly remember those days when our biggest care in the world was who we were going to play with that day. Misa suggested that we take time this weekend to rest in one another and with God, taking time to enjoy activities that inspire the kid inside of us.

Love Dare#6

LOVE DARE#6 as referenced in The Love Dare:

Choose today to react to tough circumstances in you relationship in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin making a list below of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.

Please note each dare will be extended a week so that you have enough time to do the dares, reflect with God, and fellowship with us. You may do the dares more than once a week if you are in a position to do so; allow God to be your guide. Please feel encouraged to comment as a means for stronger fellowship, but we do no want you feel obligated to do so.

 

Garrett’s Response to Love Dare #5

Drafting a response to love dare #5 was out of my comfort zone. Misa confided in me that three areas in which I could improve are affection, time spent together, and helping her out around the house. These are three of the love languages in which she tested strongly: physical touch (affection), quality time (time spent together), and acts of service (helping her out around the house). It’s not easy to hear a loved one offering constructive criticism, but, in our Mastering the Mysteries of Love class, we learned the importance of our spouse giving us improvement tips.

The “easy” part is hearing that I need to work on physical touch, quality time, and acts of service. Now comes the more difficult part, making the concerted effort to improve in those areas.

Love Dare #5

LOVE DARE#5 as referenced in The Love Dare:

Ask your loved one to tell you three things that cause her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do this without attacking her or justifying your behavior. This is from her perspective only.

Please note each dare will be extended a week so that you have enough time to do the dares, reflect with God, and fellowship with us. You may do the dares more than once a week if you are in a position to do so; allow God to be your guide. Please feel encouraged to comment as a means for stronger fellowship, but we do no want you feel obligated to do so.

 

Garrett’s Response to Love Dare #4

As Luis said, this love dare did not seem to be too taxing. Misa usually calls me at work, but I enjoyed calling her to see how her day was going or just to say hi. However, I had to go into work on Saturday and Sanctus Real’s “Lead Me” was playing on the Fish–we had initially heard “Lead Me” at Harvest Crusade this year when the lead singer explained the background behind the song. On this particular day, the lyrics resonated with me:

Sanctus Real – “Lead Me”

I look around and see my wonderful life
Almost perfect from the outside
In picture frames I see my beautiful wife
Always smiling
But on the inside, I can hear her saying…

“Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can’t
Don’t leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, what about us?

Show me you’re willing to fight
That I’m still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone”

I see their faces, look in their innocent eyes
They’re just children from the outside
I’m working hard, I tell myself they’ll be fine
They’re in independent
But on the inside, I can hear them saying…

“Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can’t
Don’t leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, but what about us?

Show me you’re willing to fight
That I’m still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone”

So Father, give me the strength
To be everything I’m called to be
Oh, Father, show me the way
To lead them
Won’t You lead me?

To lead them with strong hands
To stand up when they can’t
Don’t want to leave them hungry for love,
Chasing things that I could give up

I’ll show them I’m willing to fight
And give them the best of my life
So we can call this our home
Lead me, ’cause I can’t do this alone

Father, lead me, ’cause I can’t do this alone

The father/husband in the song relates that he’s working hard and telling himself his family will be fine, but really his wife and kids are looking to him to lead them. As husbands and fathers, we are called to be the spiritual leaders of our families and to show our wives and kids that they are the loves of our lives. The words really challenged me to be there for my wife. We are newbies when it comes to marriage, but I wanted to make sure of two things: (1) I turn to God to give me the strength, and (2) Misa can feel me there for her.

If you want to see a great video depicting “Lead Me,” check out this video.

LOVE DARE #4

LOVE DARE #4 as referenced in The Love Dare:

             Contact your loved one sometime during the business of the day.

             Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and

             if there  is anything you could do for him/her.

Please note each dare will be extended a week so that you have enough time to do the dares, reflect with God, and fellowship with us. You may do the dares more than once a week if you are in a position to do so; allow God to be your guide. Please feel encouraged to comment as a means for stronger fellowship, but we do no want you feel obligated to do so.